By Cynthia May, MA, LLP, EAC Clinical Specialist – So often, we find ourselves in situations with so many tasks to accomplish in a short period of time. And as the day goes on, more tasks appear! Many of them are important and need our attention. However, there’s one thing that often gets in the way…your phone.
Society has evolved to accept and normalize the fact that most people are carrying a cell phone. So now, when a call or text comes in, we may feel it is an “obligation” to answer. It’s “normal.” It’s “polite.” But does it feel like a choice or an obligation? If you just automatically answer it, you’ve just put your needs as subservient to the caller’s. You have allowed them to take the position of having control over your time and all your tasks.
Being polite means that you give a response to a declined call or text message with a quick text saying, “Can’t talk right now” or “Text you later.”
As a way to regain your calm, I challenge you to leave your phone in the car next time you go to the grocery store. Oh, your grocery list is on your phone? Then silence your phone. Give yourself the gift of uninterrupted time. Take the time to enjoy being present – to see, to hear, to think. Use the same reasoning when going for a walk or a run, working on a task, or running an errand. Be present, enjoy the scenery, say hello to the cashier. Participate in your experience.
Your own self-care is very important. You have the right and choice to give yourself the gift of uninterrupted time. So, in your life, who chooses to consume your calm…you – or everyone else?
You can choose to be the Director of Your Life, or the Victim of Overwhelm. Choose with awareness.
If you would like help on ways to regain your calm or are struggling in other areas of your life, contact EAC. We’re here to help!