Did you know that the ancient Greeks had eight different words for love? One kind of love is Philia, often translated as “brotherly love” or friendship. This is the kind of love we can practice with people at work by being kind and considerate.
Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, tells a story about waiting in line for at least two hours to shake the hand of a man she admired. Her turn finally came and she stepped forward to shake his hand. She noticed, however, that he wasn’t looking at her while he shook her hand. He smiled and nodded, but looked over her head to the line of people behind her. She realized he was overlooking what was right in front of him. Mary Kay vowed she would never act in that way. She is quoted as saying, “No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important.”
What I believe Mary Kay is reminding us to do is to stay in this moment with the people we are with and not to worry about what might come next. This is a way to practice Philia.
This Valentine’s Day, find a way to make someone feel important. Then, let me know what happens by posting below about what you did.