“How often misused words generate misleading thoughts.” Herbert Spencer
We know that our thoughts drive our emotions and our emotions drive our behavior. I believe we misuse the words: should, must and have to (OK, that’s a phrase), but here’s my point. When I tell myself I have to do something or I
must do this or I should do that, it sounds much more like a chore. On the contrary, when I say I choose to do this, I get to do something or I want to do that, it sounds like an opportunity.
Just for today, pay attention to the number of times you use the words: should, must, and have to. Then, change your language and use: get to, choose to, and want to. Here are some examples:
- Do you get to go to work each day or do you have to? I bet no one is threatening your life on it, so you get to go; you don’t have to go.
- I should go visit my mother. I get to go visit my mother. Using the phrase get to do something sounds more like a privilege instead of a bother.
- I must lose 10 pounds before vacation. I will choose to make healthier food choices in the weeks before vacation, so I can lose 10 pounds.
You are probably getting the idea.
Try it for 24 hours and post your results here. I’d love to hear what happens when you change your words.