In my last blog post, I repeated a work of fiction about a teacher who changed her approach to change the life of a child. Even though the story was based on a variety of events and didn’t actually happen as told, we can all learn from it. As Will Durant taught us, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” What habit are you choosing? Is it excellence?
Over the last couple of weeks since I’ve published the post, I’ve challenged myself to look at the habits I have when it comes to interacting with others. Just like that teacher in the story that I shared, we all make an impact on the lives of others. Do we build people up or tear people down? In examining how I interact with people on a daily basis, I have chosen to ask the following questions about my comments. Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Is it kind? The world could use more kindness and it feels good to help other people.
Is it true? It can be tempting to share what we’ve heard. Before you do, make sure it’s the truth. As a colleague of mine says, “There are two sides to every story and the truth is found in the middle.”
Is it necessary? Does it need to be said? There is value in silence; it’s the only place we can listen.
Let me know what you think of this three part guide (kind, true, necessary). Will you use it and be more aware of your remarks in your daily interactions with others? Please share your comments below.