Think about the last time you had a disagreement with a co-worker. Were your feelings hurt? Are you still angry and frustrated? Do you now avoid this person as much as possible?
It doesn’t matter what the issue was, we often act in ways that are counterproductive to improving relationships. Once we begin to avoid communicating with someone, it can be easy to predict what will happen next. We make assumptions about the other person and replace facts with fiction. We begin to believe these stories and often act in ways that validate our assumptions. It can be self-satisfying to say, “See, I told you so!”
Would you like to repair the damage? A great way to being the conversation is with “I want to talk to you because we used to work together well and I miss that. I am hoping we can let bygones be bygones. Would that be OK with you?” Remember people won’t agree about the details of an event that occurred in the past. The only thing to do is put it behind you and move forward. The longer you wait, the more difficult it can be to start, but it does work. In fact, a conversation between you and the other person is the only thing that will begin to rebuild the relationship and work effectively together once again. Venting to others only causes more damage.