Success has a different definition for each of us. It may be praise for a job well done. It may be reaching a goal or seeing a dream become a reality. Whatever success is to you, attaining it depends on a strong foundation of the right Self-Talk.
Self-talk is used by everyone, from small children to adults. It is the key to whether we do and achieve or or whether we succumb to the “yeah, but . . .” voices in our head and live life as a “wannabe” or a “wishIcould.” We all use self talk constantly. It determines whether we volunteer to give a presentation or cower in the background. It influences whether we exercise regularly, feel confident in conversations, have good time-management skills . . . and the list just goes on and on.
In his best-selling book “What To Say When You Talk To Your Self,” Dr. Shad Helmstetter explains how a single, even causally-spoken, phrase doesn’t die on the lips of the speaker, but insinuates itself permanently into the receiver’s memory storage files and how that thought often multiplies through our own repetitions and becomes “chemically programmed in place.” The sad truth for many people is that their brains are operating on programs created by negative self-talk they received from others—often before they could even speak—and which their brains stored each time they heard or repeated that negative message, and which they eventually acted upon as if it were true because that is how the brain works.
However, now that we can see the brain in operation through computer imaging, the truth about the power of the right Self-Talk is more exciting than sad. Working deliberately and with a simple, step-by-step process, we can replace our negative self-talk with exactly the right Self-Talk that will help us achieve our goals and expectations.
It is important to ensure that we have the right kind of Self-Talk — Self-Talk that is creating our successes instead of guaranteeing our failures. What are your programs like? Are they all working for you? Have you taken charge of your own, positive program and effectively created the right, success-directed, Self-Talk?
Tracy Wright lives in Tucson, Arizona. She is the director of the Self-Talk Institute and a certified life coach.