When there is someone at work who “makes you crazy”, it can impact every other area of our lives. We complain to just about anyone who will listen about how awful that person is making our lives. And most of the time, we blame the other person, saying, “I don’t have the problem, it’s them.”
This way of thinking continues to make the situation worse, especially when we try to get others to take our side. This creates more tension in the work area and can make everyone miserable. As humans, we naturally see the negative side of things. It is easy to play “gosh, ain’t it awful” with our coworkers. Next time you find yourself working with someone you don’t like, try to see things from their point of view. As Stephen Covey advised, “Seek first to understand. Ask questions and listen to understand their point of view”. It is not easy because it goes against our nature. Yet when we take the first step towards listening and understanding, the other person will likely respond in kind. Try it and let me know how it goes.